Category Archives: Keeping It Real

50 Ways To Praise A Child…The Wisdomed Wife Way!

  1. Wow
  2. Way to go
  3. Super
  4. You’re Special
  5. Outstanding
  6. Excellent
  7. You are compassionate
  8. You are a leader
  9. You are a great role model
  10. Remarkable
  11. I knew you could do it
  12. I’m proud of you
  13. Super star
  14. Nice work
  15. Looking good
  16. Dynamite
  17. How smart
  18. You are so creative
  19. Bravo
  20. You’re catching on
  21. That’s the ticket
  22. Beautiful
  23. Hurray for you
  24. Now you’re flying
  25. Well Done
  26. You’re on target
  27. You’re unique
  28. Nothing can stop you now
  29. Spectacular
  30. Great discovery
  31. I like you
  32. You figured it out
  33. Hip Hip Hurray
  34. You’re a real trooper
  35. You matter
  36. You are important
  37. Magnificent
  38. You are funny
  39. What a good listener
  40. I trust you
  41. I enjoy spending time with you
  42. What an imagination
  43. You belong
  44. You make me laugh
  45. You tried hard
  46. You’re sensational
  47. You’re growing up
  48. You brighten my day
  49. You are responsible
  50. I love you

A Beginners Guide To Living A More Joyful Life

  • Wake up each day and decide that today will be a great day regardless of what happens around you and in lieu of others behavior.
  • Stop complaining and wasting your energy on things that you cannot change.

Traffic: Sure you can take a different route or work from home but how feasible is that?Rather than getting worked up take this time to listen to an audio book or listen to peaceful music.

Long Lines: We all know that long lines suck, but I never can understand someone who gets so bent out of shape over this. Take a deep breath or shop online.

Weather: People that constantly complain about the weather baffle me the most. Get out and enjoy it or snuggle up inside and play a board game, cook a great meal or read a fabulous book.

  • Surround yourself with positive people. Eliminate the negative.
  • Stop gossiping and do not hang out with people who gossip, nothing good comes from it.
  • Worry-Less – What are you so worried about? What is the worst thing that can happen? Look back on your life and all of the things that you worried about, it all worked out didn’t it?
  • If you are unhappy about something that you can change, set goals and figure out how to make the change.
  • Be kind.
  •  Do not yell. Unless your child is about to run in traffic or your house is on fire try to refrain from yelling. Use a strong voice and your words wisely.
  • Help others.
  • Listen more. Speak less.
  • Have fun.
  • Learn something new.
  • Try to get to know a person and their situation rather than judging them. It’s not your job.
  • Say you are sorry and forgive others.
  • Stop caring about what people think of you. Do your best and treat people well.

 

 

 

Do You Ever Feel Like You Are Screwing It All Up?

Do you ever feel like you are screwing it all up? This parenting thing…this being a good wife thing? I am pretty sure most days that I am. It starts in the morning when I come to find there are no clean school approved pants for my son. The ones that I remembered the night before to throw in the wash but they never made it to the dryer. Or, how about the mornings when we miss the bus and I need to drive my children to school… The morning when I am wearing my leopard pajama bottoms and I do not have a bra on and the male gym teacher decides this morning is the perfect morning to approach my car and chat. Or maybe it is a cold winter day and I am having a meaningful conversation with a mom at the bus stop only to find that I have a half eaten lollipop stuck to my hat? Yes this is me…humble, authentic, dorky me…but the best part of it all is that I do not take myself too seriously and I roll with it. I am doing my best. It is very true that most days my husbands socks do not match and my childrens carved pumpkins do not look like anything that remotely resembles the ones that I have seen on the cover of a magazine. And that damned Elf…I dread his return and I almost always forget to move him and need to make up some far fetched story. But regardless of all these things my husband and children think I am pretty great…and that’s enough for me!

How To Generate A Positive Body Image In Our Children

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I believe this is such an important subject. Negative body image can lead to eating disorders, depression and a lifetime of poor self esteem. It is our job as parents to foster a healthy and positive outlook when it comes to our bodies. Here are some tips on how we can do just that!
  • Never call yourself fat or say negative things about your body.
  • Talk about what your body can do not just how it looks
  • Value people for who they are, not how they look
  • When you see someone in public or on TV that is not a size “2” but looks wonderful, point out how beautiful they look
  • Keep healthy food choices in the home and cook with fresh ingredients
  • Show your children how they can enjoy treats such as ice cream in moderation
  • Talk about how healthy eating is good for our bodies and has nothing to do with our weight, but rather how it helps our body work
  • Spend time daily doing a physical activity with your child, this will energize them
  • Refrain from making comments such as ” she is so fat”, “those jeans make you look skinny”, “you need to lose weight”, “I need to wear my fat pants today”
  • Speak positively about your body
  • Tell them that they look healthy and strong and beautiful

Dating Wisdom From A Married Chick

I have been married for 16 years… Here’s some advice for my single friends!
Do not look for another person to complete you. This will never happen. You need to complete you, it is not possible for any other person to do this.
Do not even consider for a second a person that is unavailable, whether it be by marriage or being emotionally unavailable. STAY AWAY!
Stay far away from anyone with an addiction whether it be alcohol, drugs, sex or gambling. You cannot fix them. Don’t even try.
Like someone for the person they are. Do not say oh I like this but maybe that will change. If you don’t like them and accept them as is then move on.
Be yourself. Do not pretend to like a sport a hobby etc, if you do not. Be authentic. The truth will come out.
Pay attention to how he/she treats others especially their parents, wait staff, cashiers. If they are not kind to them, they are not a good person.
Do not settle. You are important and valuable. You deserve someone that treats you with respect and spends time with you.
Get a life! Stay busy…do not allow your partner to define you. You are much more attractive when you have your own hobbies and interests.
Men specifically love the hunt…make them work for it. Do not be at their every beck and call!
Do not smother them. Let them have their space and go out with their friends. Leave them be. They will appreciate it and want to be with you even more.
Be open but at the same time keep them guessing.
Do not put yourself down or constantly be negative…it is a major turn off.
Take your time…do not rush sex. It is worth the wait.
Have fun and don’t take yourself too seriously.

10 Tips to Create More Joy and Togetherness In Your Family

Life is busy…we are all over scheduled with work, school, sports, dance classes, etc.  It can take a toll on us. Here are some tips on how to regroup and bring some joy and togetherness back to your family,
1. Eat meals together…I know this is not always easy but it really does make a difference. This is a time to be together without any outside distractions and share a meal and stories about your day with each other. In my family this is a phone free and television free time.
2. Plan and prepare meals together- let your children get involved in all aspects of the meal planning and preparing. Find a recipe. Make a list of what you will need. Shop for the items together. Prepare the meal together. This is such a wonderful learning experience and bonding time.
3.Get outside and explore. Geocaching is a great way to do this and lots of fun. Play a game of soccer, rake leaves or take a walk or bike ride.
4. Teach faith…in our family we go to church. If you do not go to church or temple or the like, there are still many ways to teach faith. Show them to believe in something…God, nature, Mother Earth, but most importantly themselves.
5. Volunteer together…this is an enriching experience. Get in touch with your local soup kitchens, hospitals, churches etc and find opportunities for your family to volunteer together.
6. Have family rituals…family movie night, game night, bowling night…you name it! The goal is to spend time together and have fun.
7. Do chores together. Work around the house together as a team. Give everyone an age appropriate chore to do and spend an hour doing chores together. Make it fun by blasting some music!
8. Dance together. In our house we love to play music and dance around the kitchen together…it is so much fun and relieves stress.
9. Learn something new together. Find things that each family member is interested in learning, maybe it is learning to play a new instrument or learning how to ski. Learn together as a family, it will be very rewarding.
10. Ask your children to teach you what they learn. When children come home from school  ask them to teach you what they learned that day. This shows them that you are interested in their day and allows them to practice the skills that they learned.

Take a Hike

I love being outside as often as possible regardless of the weather, my children are the same. I have found that when I need a new perspective on things or to clear my head the choice is clear. Go outside. I am lucky enought to live in an area that is filled with natures bounty. The list of things to do is endless…hiking, skiing, fishing, kayaking, rock climbing.

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I am also lucky enough to have a core group of friends that enjoy the outdoors as much as I do. We are raising our children to get out and explore because you never know what you might find.

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There are days that I probably should stay home and clean more, or wash the ever building stack of laundry. But, there are only so many days in the year that are filled with brilliant color and grand fortune to be discovered around each corner.

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You may even have a chance meeting, or gain a new perspective!

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You could possibly be giving a gift of a lifetime that does not cost anything at all…

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So the next time someone tells you to “Take a hike” don’t consider it to be a bad thing…

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Because it quite possibly could be the best thing!

Remaining Calm In My Chaos

As I take a moment to check in, in the midst of helping with homework and boo boo’s, carpooling to sports and preparing supper and  getting clothing and lunches ready  for tomorrow. I want to ask you…what have you done today to nourish your soul? Have you taken the time to tell youself that you are doing a wonderful job? Have you looked in the mirror and said ” I like what I see?” Have you gone outside and said…”Wow it is beautiful around here”? If not, it is not too late….go to the mirror and take a good look, go outside and look at the dark sky and breath in the air. Say to yourself “you are doing great”!

New Beginnings

New Beginnings…they are exhilarating..a new romance, the butterflies in your stomach, the anticipation of your first kiss. A new home…so pristine and untouched, a blank canvas if you will. So exciting! A brand new baby…warm, gentle and sweet. That new job that you longed for…it makes you feel alive! Then, time passes and romance becomes routine, babies grow and answer back, homes become messy and cluttered. Jobs… mundane. I hope you will take this journey with me here at wisdomedwife as I begin this new adventure. In doing so I would love to guide and inspire you to live in the moment and make every day a new beginning.