Category Archives: Everyday Wisdom

50 Ways To Praise A Child…The Wisdomed Wife Way!

  1. Wow
  2. Way to go
  3. Super
  4. You’re Special
  5. Outstanding
  6. Excellent
  7. You are compassionate
  8. You are a leader
  9. You are a great role model
  10. Remarkable
  11. I knew you could do it
  12. I’m proud of you
  13. Super star
  14. Nice work
  15. Looking good
  16. Dynamite
  17. How smart
  18. You are so creative
  19. Bravo
  20. You’re catching on
  21. That’s the ticket
  22. Beautiful
  23. Hurray for you
  24. Now you’re flying
  25. Well Done
  26. You’re on target
  27. You’re unique
  28. Nothing can stop you now
  29. Spectacular
  30. Great discovery
  31. I like you
  32. You figured it out
  33. Hip Hip Hurray
  34. You’re a real trooper
  35. You matter
  36. You are important
  37. Magnificent
  38. You are funny
  39. What a good listener
  40. I trust you
  41. I enjoy spending time with you
  42. What an imagination
  43. You belong
  44. You make me laugh
  45. You tried hard
  46. You’re sensational
  47. You’re growing up
  48. You brighten my day
  49. You are responsible
  50. I love you

Maine Forever

 

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The other day my husband and I were trying to have a conversation with our children about our plans for the summer. Our summer plans since 1997 have been Maine.

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We have made many friends there and it is our tradition.

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We thought that maybe our children have tired of it and thought  they would like to travel to some new spots.

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Well, we were dead wrong. It set our two oldest children into a tailspin. These were some of their comments in between terror and tears.

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What do you mean no Maine?, We have to go to Maine…it is not summer without Maine. I hate you, I can’t believe you are doing this to us. I don’t care about seeing the world, I just care about Maine.

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My husband and I looked at each other and shrugged…and I said ” Okay. Maine Forever!”.

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Thanks Mom!

I am just settling in now after driving home from Cheer and Karate.  I absolutely adore the moment when my children walk out and see me and they tell me about what they accomplished. A new technique they learned, a pain they felt. How Shihan was proud. How Coach was tough. The stories, the excitement. That being in the moment and absolute feeling of being alive. I see it in their faces…I feel their appreciation. Their telling without saying. Thanks for taking the time to ask me how it was, for driving me back and forth, for going without so we can have this experience. Thanks Mom!

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Getting To Know Wisdomed Wife

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This blog is new for me so I would love for you to get to know me better!

  • I love the outdoors
  • I love animals
  • I adore children
  • I have a thing for lumberjacks, cowboys, and all things flannel
  • My nickname as a child was Pippy
  • I moved a lot as a child, going to 8 different schools
  • I love making snow menand snow angels
  • I love hot drinks… cider, tea, coffee, cocoa, mulled wine..you name it
  • Maine is my favorite place on Earth, specifically the Pemaquid/New Harbor Area
  • I enjoy camping
  • I enjoy cooking and baking
  • I love rain, thunderstorms and snow
  • I love new adventures
  • To be continued…

A Beginners Guide To Living A More Joyful Life

  • Wake up each day and decide that today will be a great day regardless of what happens around you and in lieu of others behavior.
  • Stop complaining and wasting your energy on things that you cannot change.

Traffic: Sure you can take a different route or work from home but how feasible is that?Rather than getting worked up take this time to listen to an audio book or listen to peaceful music.

Long Lines: We all know that long lines suck, but I never can understand someone who gets so bent out of shape over this. Take a deep breath or shop online.

Weather: People that constantly complain about the weather baffle me the most. Get out and enjoy it or snuggle up inside and play a board game, cook a great meal or read a fabulous book.

  • Surround yourself with positive people. Eliminate the negative.
  • Stop gossiping and do not hang out with people who gossip, nothing good comes from it.
  • Worry-Less – What are you so worried about? What is the worst thing that can happen? Look back on your life and all of the things that you worried about, it all worked out didn’t it?
  • If you are unhappy about something that you can change, set goals and figure out how to make the change.
  • Be kind.
  •  Do not yell. Unless your child is about to run in traffic or your house is on fire try to refrain from yelling. Use a strong voice and your words wisely.
  • Help others.
  • Listen more. Speak less.
  • Have fun.
  • Learn something new.
  • Try to get to know a person and their situation rather than judging them. It’s not your job.
  • Say you are sorry and forgive others.
  • Stop caring about what people think of you. Do your best and treat people well.

 

 

 

Halloween Is Back On!

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It is a new day in The Pocono Mountains today. A day of joy, peace and relief. Children in all townships can Trick or Treat tonight because Eric Frein, the 31-year-old accused of killing one state trooper and wounding another outside the police barracks has been captured. He was found at an abandoned airport Thursday, they shackled him with handcuffs belonging to Cpl. Bryon Dickson, the state trooper he allegedly fatally shot on September 12. Frein was taken away in the slain officer’s car.

It has been a nightmare that has lasted weeks which included heavy police presence, lockdowns and canceled events including a Halloween Parade that was supposed to celebrate its 50th year.

Last night, after Frein’s capture we heard the familiar sounds of helicopters above that all of us in this area have grown so accustomed to. It took a moment to sink in that it was not because they were searching for him, the search was over.

My children said it was a great feeling that they could trick or treat tonight without worrying. I have to say they are not alone with that sentiment.

See-Saw

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My father-in-law died suddenly last month…it was sad and shocking and everything death is expected to be. My parents have been gone for years now, and my children never did get the chance to meet my dad.

As I sat this morning with my sweet little 2-year-old girl Lula she said “Mommy, See-Saw” I began to sing and she rocked back and forth ” See saw, knock on the door who’s there?”and Lula said the next word…”Grandpa”. The word startled me…it made me feel so completely sad and empty. Sadder than I was when I found out he passed or at his funeral.

There are no more Grandpa’s left for my children. My 2-year-old will never know him as my older children did. The loving, funny, big, strong Grandpa. The one that had all of the goodies to eat in the house even though Grandma prefered that they remain on the shelf at the store. The man who sang so beautifully to Harry Chapin songs and looked straight into your eyes when you told a story. The heartbeat of our family was gone.

I looked at my little girl and I felt so very sad for her that she would not remember him…we continued on with our rhyme and she giggled and laughed and when we were done she said “Again, mommy again.”

So, again and again, we sang..and each time that we said “Grandpa” It became easier…I could feel the sadness leaving replaced by warmth. The warmth I would feel when I saw his gentle smile and sparkling eyes.

And then I said ” Lula…again?”

Do You Ever Feel Like You Are Screwing It All Up?

Do you ever feel like you are screwing it all up? This parenting thing…this being a good wife thing? I am pretty sure most days that I am. It starts in the morning when I come to find there are no clean school approved pants for my son. The ones that I remembered the night before to throw in the wash but they never made it to the dryer. Or, how about the mornings when we miss the bus and I need to drive my children to school… The morning when I am wearing my leopard pajama bottoms and I do not have a bra on and the male gym teacher decides this morning is the perfect morning to approach my car and chat. Or maybe it is a cold winter day and I am having a meaningful conversation with a mom at the bus stop only to find that I have a half eaten lollipop stuck to my hat? Yes this is me…humble, authentic, dorky me…but the best part of it all is that I do not take myself too seriously and I roll with it. I am doing my best. It is very true that most days my husbands socks do not match and my childrens carved pumpkins do not look like anything that remotely resembles the ones that I have seen on the cover of a magazine. And that damned Elf…I dread his return and I almost always forget to move him and need to make up some far fetched story. But regardless of all these things my husband and children think I am pretty great…and that’s enough for me!

How To Generate A Positive Body Image In Our Children

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I believe this is such an important subject. Negative body image can lead to eating disorders, depression and a lifetime of poor self esteem. It is our job as parents to foster a healthy and positive outlook when it comes to our bodies. Here are some tips on how we can do just that!
  • Never call yourself fat or say negative things about your body.
  • Talk about what your body can do not just how it looks
  • Value people for who they are, not how they look
  • When you see someone in public or on TV that is not a size “2” but looks wonderful, point out how beautiful they look
  • Keep healthy food choices in the home and cook with fresh ingredients
  • Show your children how they can enjoy treats such as ice cream in moderation
  • Talk about how healthy eating is good for our bodies and has nothing to do with our weight, but rather how it helps our body work
  • Spend time daily doing a physical activity with your child, this will energize them
  • Refrain from making comments such as ” she is so fat”, “those jeans make you look skinny”, “you need to lose weight”, “I need to wear my fat pants today”
  • Speak positively about your body
  • Tell them that they look healthy and strong and beautiful